I have trouble reaching orgasm

When I first started out as a sex therapist thirty years ago, I was taught that difficulty ejaculating was rare, that it was very hard to treat, and that it usually suggested deep-rooted psychological problems. The reality is that difficulty ejaculating is rather common. Feel free to skip ahead if you like. Biologically speaking, an orgasm is simply a reflex. Your body is full of reflexes: The knee-jerk reflex, the gag reflex, the cough reflex, the sneeze reflex — they all basically work the same way.

Ever needed to sneeze—nose tickling, whole body clenched, staring up at a light in hopes that a big "ACHOO! Not being able to have an orgasm after a big build-up often feels like that Inability to orgasm is frustrating for someone trying to achieve sexual release through sex or masturbation. Chronic problems reaching climax can also sap the joy from a couple's sex life when disappointment spoils what's meant to be a playful encounter: Eventually, you're worrying about whether "it" will happen before your clothes even hit the floor. Or worse, sex becomes a fraught activity and you avoid it altogether. If you've experienced trouble reaching orgasm, you're far from alone, and it happens to both women and men. Here are some expert tips on getting there if you can't orgasm, but would very much like to,.

Back to Sexual health. Also some women find they can orgasm when masturbating but not when they are with their partner. This could be due to problems with the relationship or not being stimulated sufficiently.

Your mind needs to stay clear and focused, your nerves sensitive and blood needs to flow to all the right places. Cleveland Clinic is a non-profit academic medical center. Advertising on our site helps support our mission. We do not endorse non-Cleveland Clinic products or services. Many women find they cannot climax during penile-vaginal sex.